Couples Therapy

A happy couple holding hands and having breakfast together

  • Are you feeling frustrated with your relationship?
  • Would you like to have more passion in your sex life?
  • Are your in-laws driving you crazy?
  • Do you find yourselves arguing about finances and housework?
  • Would you like to feel respected and appreciated by your partner?
  • Have the kids gotten in the way of your date nights?
  • Are you interested in gaining communication & conflict resolution skills?
  • Is it hard to trust your partner?
  • Would you like to feel more connection and joy in your relationship?

Relationships can be challenging in our fast paced world with so many demands on our time and energy. We can help you and your partner increase respect, affection, and closeness in your relationship. We can help you enhance your communication skills keeping conflict discussions calm- creating more understanding between you and your partner.

Our couples therapy approach is based on  Psychobiology Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) developed by Stan Tatkin which combines  three areas of cutting-edge research:

  • The first is neuroscience, the study of the human brain. Understanding how the brain works provides a physiological basis for understanding how people act and react within relationships. In a nutshell, some areas of your brain are wired to reduce threat and danger and seek security, while others are geared to establish mutuality and loving connection.
  • The second is attachment theory, which explains the biological need to bond with others. Experiences in early relationships create a blueprint that informs the sense of safety and security you bring to adult relationships. Insecurities that have been carried through life can wreak havoc for a couple if these issues are not resolved.
  • The third area is the biology of human arousal—meaning the moment-to-moment ability to manage one’s energy, alertness, and readiness to engage.

The goal of this approach is to help couples move more toward a secure functioning. To learn more about this concept click on the following link: Stan Tatkin on a secure functioning relationship

The Ten Commandments for a Secure-Functioning Relationship by Stan Tatkin

We also draw from other modalities including Gottman and Emotionally-Focused Therapy.

Couples who make relationships work well adopt the motto “If you’re hurting baby, the world stops and I listen. I’m with you”. -Gottman Institute